Friday evening, after the ladies had been down, I climbed underneath my weighted blanket with a glass of wine, Dogland (so, so good, btw), and Penny, who promptly fell asleep on my arm.
She twitched just a little as she snoozed, and when John walked by the bed room on his strategy to the closet, she lifted her head.
We each assumed she noticed or smelled him. However, when he approached to pet her, she leapt away from bed with a bark and a growl.
He jumped again.
Instantly, Penny realized it was John and settled. He, nevertheless, felt very unsettled.
She is so good and candy and mild that we frequently neglect–and, thus, take as a right–that she got here to us with vital trauma.
And despite the fact that six good months have helped her heal considerably, she has greater than two years earlier than that crammed with neglect and abuse. After we neglect that truth, once we drop our cautious consideration, that may all the time be on us, by no means on her.
With that in thoughts, I wished to share Penny’s replace partly to assist anybody else who’s adopted a canine from comparable circumstances really feel much less alone, and partly to present myself a file in order that I can proceed to look again and see how far we’ve come.
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I do know you recognize this sense as a result of I’m pretty sure it’s common: How on earth does time transfer so quick?
Penny joined our household just a little greater than six months in the past, and whereas that’s hardly any time in any respect, it additionally appears like she’s been right here perpetually.
However, first, should you’re new right here, welcome! We misplaced our canine, Cooper, final fall, and it was actually, actually tough for us and our ladies. Whereas we didn’t plan for issues to maneuver so shortly, we adopted Penny and listed below are a couple of posts to catch you up on her story:
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And that brings us to at present, the six-ish-month mark with fairly Penny.
This previous week has been attention-grabbing.
Together with the incident with John, a number of occasions just lately she lurched out of sleep with an enormous growl or bark. We’ve strengthened the dog-safe floor guidelines with the ladies of no waking or petting Penny if she’s asleep. If we have to wake her up, I’ll achieve this by both flicking the lights or stomping my ft.
Despite the fact that she appears so settled in, concern nonetheless plagues my woman.
That’s been obvious, too, with a regression on our neighborhood strolls.
We seen Penny startled excess of regular on our walks.
At first, every part scared her, so walks had been sluggish and treat-heavy as we tried to cross one home, then two, then the block, and so forth. It didn’t take her lengthy to understand she loved walks and, so long as we saved it sluggish, she persevered. (Sluggish, for actual. It takes her about an hour to stroll a mile.)
After a couple of months, Penny confidently walked the identified streets of our neighborhood and delighted in strolling by parks and alongside trails.
Now and again, although, she flinches. One thing scares her, and she or he cowers.
Pancakes.
After which… recovers.
This week, although, she struggled to get well. It’s not been as unhealthy because it was these first couple months, nevertheless it definitely appears like a setback.
On the flip aspect:
Twice within the final month, she walked down the entrance hallway in our home.
This can be a feat she’s but to aim till now. You may’ve seen on Instagram a couple of months in the past, Penny conquering the hallway in the home that connects the bed room to the kitchen to the lounge:
After a couple of tries over a pair weeks, a swap flipped and she or he was over it!
Now, I’m not going to say she’s “conquering” the entrance hallway in the identical method.
She’s accomplished it solely these two occasions, and she or he has a superbly affordable path to keep away from it altogether (she will be able to stroll by the lounge to go upstairs and by no means have to make use of that hallway), however the truth that she’s tried it–twice!–appears like ahead progress.
One step ahead and one other step again
I suppose that’s restoration, isn’t it?
Progress won’t ever be linear.
The previous lives on in her thoughts and her physique.
However, up to now six months she’s discovered that good meals comes recurrently. She’s discovered ask for what she desires. She’s discovered cuddle and zoom across the yard.
She’s nonetheless studying security.
She’s studying she will be able to belief us, that we are going to by no means damage her. She’s studying play with toys. She’s studying stay with two very totally different cats. She’s studying that she’s protected even when she doesn’t all the time really feel protected.
So, what are the six-month classes?
Time and persistence, earlier than all else.
We have to bear in mind to not take progress as a right. She’s doing wonderful AND we have to account for and accommodate the previous she carries together with her.
Principally, I’m so grateful for this candy woman. She’s an unbelievable canine. Mild, candy, humorous, and on the cusp of letting her foolish aspect free!
I’m additionally grateful to be entrusted together with her care, to assist her discover her footing and really feel protected on this planet.
I’m excited to see the place she goes within the subsequent six months and am leaving this publish right here to look again on once we’re celebrating her first gotcha day as a result of I’ve a lot religion in Penny. I do know every small setback shall be accompanied by even larger leaps ahead.
Till then, time and persistence. Which all of us deserve.
In the event you loved this publish, you’ll additionally get pleasure from my forthcoming guide, For the Love of Canine, from Regalo Press in 2025. It’s chock stuffed with the most recent analysis in canine cognition mixed with tales of my canine to convey the info to life. To remain up-to-date on the most recent with my publication information, observe alongside on Instagram. I’d love to attach with you and your canine!
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